For Men

Generally, people consider pregnancy a "woman's issue." However, Valley Pregnancy Center recognizes that to understand the choices and effects on a relationship men need education before making important life choices. Research suggests many men have admitted to being confused when confronted by their partner with a potential pregnancy. The important thing to remember, whether the pregnancy test is negative or positive, is RESPECT.

Remain by her side. Don't pick this moment to break up with her! She needs your support. Whether you stay together forever does not have to be decided today, but right now, she needs you.

Expect to be part of the solution. SHE'S carrying the baby, but you are BOTH parents. You have an obligation to love and support that baby regardless of your relationship with her.

Seek wise counsel from knowledgeable sources. Valley Pregnancy Center will help you examine all of your options and supply you with information to make the best decision.

Prepare to tell parents and others close to the situation. Think through the relationships you have and how best to tell each person. It's good to have a plan rather than just blurt it out.

Express yourself honestly. It's normal to have feelings of anger, frustration, fear, disappointment and it's OK to express that, but it should not be directed AT your girlfriend and should NOT be a rant and rave session.

Care for her! She is scared and overwhelmed. Reassure her that she is not alone.

Tell no one until she is ready. Let her take the lead in how and when to let others know.